Monday, February 05, 2007

A tale of a TRULY unfit mother

Sourpatch Baby had asked long, long ago why Daddy and I don't try and get custody of Little Daddy. Well, we were not to stable until about a year ago. We were moving around a lot, and here the court system would have laughed in our faces when we told them our situation.
Saturday, my MIL had an appointment with My Honey to see a house closer to all of us. She lives half an hour away now, and her kids have been begging her to move a little closer. So she got into her truck (she has an Isuzu something or other) with Little Daddy (who was apparently spending the weekend with her...not us) and was making her way to the appointment, where Selfish and I were going to meet her. That is until she stopped at a red light and was rear ended by some speed demon who didn't notice she was fully stopped. This caused a chain reaction, where my MIL hit the person in front of her, and so on and so on, until it was a five-car almost pile-up. My MIL and Little Daddy were taken to the hospital via ambulance. Everyone was at the hospital, Selfish called The Whore so she would go. I didn't want to see her, but hey, her son was in an accident, I wasn't going to say anything. Until an hour passed, two hours, three and she still hasn't shwon up at the hospital. WTF, right? Three and a half hours pass and she calls Selfish on her cell saying "I'm outside." Selfish says "We're on the fifth floor, just take the elevators." The Whore says "Can't you just send Little Daddy down?"
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She didn't come upstairs, she didn't come upsatirs to make sure her OWN SON was okay- who by the way was being seen by a doctor because he said his back was hurting him. She didn't come upstairs to sign any paperwork, she just didn't come up. When the nurses kept asking where Little Daddy's mother was (for signatures on x-rays and procedures and such) Selfish told them she didn't know. Daddy signed everything. The nurses pulled Selfish aside and questioned her about The Whore. The nurses themselves could not believe she was parked outside. But it turns out she wasn't parked outside anymore...Selfless got a call from The Whore on the phone saying they were taking too long to bring Little Daddy downstairs so she was leaving.
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She left her son in the hospital without even going upstairs to see how he was, to see if he was afraid, to hug him and be with him while he was being checked by complete strangers in white coats. He is five fucking years old. And he was basically alone.

Yesterday we spent the day at my MIL's house, doing everything for her. She has a sprained neck so she can't do too much. Little Daddy was still there, no word from his mother. Until six o'clock when she called to see if Selfless could drop him off at her house- forty five minutes away. Selfish was the one who picked up the phone and told her quite a few things about herself and said that she better get off her ass and come pick him up, that if she could find a car to go to the Whore Clubs she goes to every weekend then she could find a car to come pick up her son. The Whore refused. She said we better drop him off or Daddy was going to have to miss work and stay with him because she was not coming to pick him up. She claimed to have company and she wouldn't leave. WOULDN'T, not couldn't.
It sickens me.
My MIL started to cry.

On our drive home I told Daddy I would try calling the lawyer to see what we could do about getting custody of him. This year we are more stable, we finally have settled and we can take care of him. I feel that if they just gave her a drug test, they would take him away so fast she wouldn't even notice. Not that it would even matter to her, she would have more free time to party and not have to worry about a kid. (She has TWO children remember? The youngest is only 10 months old.)

What's worse is a story Little Daddy told us yesterday. He told us how he went to bed the other night with a belly ache because he was hungry and his mom didn't listen to him. This is coming from a FIVE YEAR OLD. I have a feeling his deposition with the lawyer will take a few hours with all the stories that kid must have.

9 comments:

dennis said...

It sounds horrible...Here's hoping you can brighten his life!

DD said...

Did he ask where his mother was while he was in the hospital? What a horrid person she is.

Go for the custody, I say. It sounds like you are the parents in every other way, you may as well be in the legal sense, too.

Diana said...

dd- he didn't ask in front of me, so I don't even know if he asked. I wouldn't have answered, I would have distracted him somehow, because as much as I hate his mother I won't bad-mouth her in front of him.

sourpatchbaby said...

Oh dear God, that is just horrible. At least it won't be your word against hers in court. It will be the word of your MIL and Selfish and probably the hospital also. At least you have plenty of documentation here on the site to show that this was not an isolated incident, but a whole trainwreck. How is Little Daddy though? Was he okay?

Diana said...

SPB- he is fine. He was a little sore most of Sat, but as of yesterday he was back to running around and screaming like a banshee on crack.

Maria said...

Holy Cow...when I hear stories like that...it breaks my heart.

And good for you for not bad mouthing that woman to her child, but oooohhh.....doesn't it just itch your butt that people like that get to have children when so many who deserve them can't?

Cheap said...

I feel terrible for Little Daddy. And why on earth did she have a 2nd baby????? I second what Maria said.

I hope it works out for you guys.

MamaLee said...

Breaks my heart. I hope things work out so that you can bring lots more happiness to that little boy's life.

AJW5403 said...

I can not believe that. Why do some mothers act like this. And their child is the one that pays when this goes on. I hope you and daddy can get little daddy living with you.