Thursday, December 28, 2006

"Don't touch any of my stuff."

Those were the words spoken out of my Princess Niece's mouth yesterday. They were directed at my son who was looking at one of her toys.
She is lucky she didn't get punched in the mouth, because that's all I wanted to do.
Instead, being a grown-up, I said to her "Well, you know what, when you come to my house don't expect to touch a single one of his toys. You like coming to my house don't you? And you like playing with Little Man's toys, right? If he can't touch your toys you aren't going to touch his. You guys SHARE. And if you can't share you aren't going to play together."
She went off crying.
And I don't care.
I'm sick and tired of her and Little Daddy pushing my son away everytime they are together. Granted her and Little Daddy are the same age, but still, my son looks up to them and loves them and wants to do everything they do. I'm tired of having to pull my son away and distract him because they don't want him around. I'm sick of them coming to me saying Little Man doesn't leave them alone. HE IS TWO FUCKING YEARS OLD. He just wants to play with his big brother and his cousin, he doesn't get to see them all the time.
I left my SIL's house pissed. I took my son and left, I went home and played cars with him.
Sick and fucking tired.


Mama of 2 said...

I can completely understand where you are coming from. Girlie Girlie is the same way. She wants to be part of the big kids play and I am lucky that most of my nieces and nephews comply especially the oldest one since she loves to play the mother figure.

I have mixed feelings since being 5 years older than my sister I remember what it was like when she wanted to be part of it all and I just wanted her to leave me and my friends alone. So it's a double edge sword for me cause on some level I can see both sides.

dennis said...

I get that from girl.imp. Her closest (in mileage) cousins are all boys and are at that age that they do not want to play with her. Luckily she can play by herself and be content.

However there will come the day when she'll get to return the favor (and will I be the calming influence or will I be the one saying "remember the time..."

Anonymous said...

I know what you mean. Having the youngest kid at church, I know what it is when he wants to play with the other kids. I have to keep him away, mostly because the other kids are too rough. Of course, SIL sees you as the bad guy for making her Princess cry. I hate that some parents won't instill any kind of values in their children. It's okay for her to make others cry and be mean, just don't do it to her? I see that as SIL's fault. As for that other woman...She's a douchebag. Is there any way that you and Daddy could try to get custody of Little Daddy? Sorry that there's not much else I can suggest.

Diana said...

mamaof2- I was the youngest and always alone. my sister is 7 yrs. older so she was never around me at all. I don't want to have Little Man be as miserable as I was.
dennis-this time will come for me, too as he does have younger cousins...but I hate that he is the receiver. And when he is older I will have to remind him of this.
SPB- us getting custody of Little Daddy is a post within itself. One day I will write about it. And yes, I did notice that suddenly I was the bad guy. It sucks, but I have to defend my son, too. I'm sure if Little man had hit her or something my SIL wouldn't hesitate to defend her daughter.

Qalballah said...

I used to feel that way too. But then my little man grew up and did the same to the younger kids so I guess its nature's way LOL. Hurts though...