Explanation

Thanks for warm thoughts. I think we're okay for now, I decided to put myself in therapy as soon as our insurance mess gets cleared up, which I had written about yesterday but now will leave it for another day. Maybe speaking to someone will help, hopefully Daddy can understand that I AM NOT trying to be his mother when I ask him to call me if he's going to be out for long. I am his WIFE and I still have the right to know, it's not me trying to run his life. He forgets that things change when you commit to someone and start a family, he thinks it still means he can go and hang out whenever he wants. Which is not the problem, the problem is that his friends are not in real relationships, so they don't know what responsibilities he has to me and his son. They don't understand that he can't go hanging out every night till two or three in the morning. Just...
God, I can't even put it into words without sounding like a nag.
I'm not trying to be his mother. I only gave birth to one, why do I feel llike I have two sometimes? He seems to have at least partly understood my point because he's calling if he's out. (He doesn't need to check in, but I always call him and let him know where I'm going and when I'll be back why can't I get the same respect?) And he doesn't go hanging out all the time, which i'm grateful for because before we had Little Man we used to be Night Owls, never slept at night, we would be watching movies or playing games or challenging ourselves to get lost in different towns...yeah, we had no life. We were a large group of friends that has slowly separated into different couples (some from within the group) or people that just stayed single and are in the same frame of mind that we were in 2-3 years ago. Things change, and Daddy kinda doesn't want to accept that. I think he gets this feeling that if he changes it means he's old... I tried explaining to him that we are GROWING UP, it happens. We can't be 20- year-olds forever. (We are both 23, I don't think I've ever mentioned that.) And change doesn't mean we're old overnight, we NEED change in order to grow...
I don't know.
Hey Latteman, where are my cookies? They really would have come in handy the other day....
Just joking! I do pity my mailman, he has started to run in and out of my office...
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